About Scott
Certifications
Focus On The Family Marriage Institute - Certified Hope Restored After Care Coach
International Coaching Federation - Professional Certified Coach (PCC)
Professional Christian Coaching Institute - Certified Professional Life Coach (CPLC)
Ball State University - BS - Human Resources Management and Marketing
You are not alone.
I know what it feels like to experience relational brokenness and loss of hope. If you would have told me in that dark season that I would experience life-enriching peace and fullness of joy again -- I’m not sure I would have believed you. But then, just like you, I sought help.
Recently my bride Cathy and I celebrated 32 years of marriage and along the way, we have been blessed with three amazing kids; Macey, Grahm, and Bridgette. But, not all of the years have been amazing. During year 12 and after years of crying out for my help, Cathy told me she was done working on our marriage and wanted out. Although I was devastated, the Lord began to reveal to me exactly where I had not been the husband and father I needed to be and that He created me to be.
After trying to persevere on our own for eight months, we finally sought help. For us -- that’s when everything changed. As a last-ditch effort to save our marriage before filing for divorce, we attended a week-long marriage intensive in Branson, Mo where individually, God got a hold of our hearts. He began walking with us on our journey of reconciliation, first with Him and then in our marriage. God performed an absolute miracle of restoration because had it been up to us, we would definitely be divorced today.
Please trust me, I am human and not perfect. I have experienced my fair share of relationship challenges in my professional life and with friends. In those challenges, I sought coaching to aid me in crafting a plan on how to navigate the relationships successfully.
It has been an honor and blessing to walk with hundreds of individuals and couples on their own relationship journey toward lives of relational peace. Throughout these pages, a few of these clients have been kind enough to share their personal experiences of working with me as their Relationship Coach.
Remember, the road toward relational peace, connection, joy, and hope is a long one. This process is a journey. But it just takes one step to change everything for the better.
Ready to take the next step?
“We can honestly say Coaching has changed our lives and strengthened our relationship with each other and with God. We continue to feel we have hope and help and are truly thankful for Scott.”
— Ted & Debbie
294 Years of Marriage…
In the fall of 2020 we were blessed to celebrate the marriage of Macey & Garyson Lanham with Grahm and Bridgette along their side.
When Cathy and I were in crisis our kids were 7, 5, and 3. During the final week of preparations for the wedding, we were humbled by the revelation from God of how different this special day would have been had we decided to quit on our marriage and family.
It was for a time we could not see, and many before this, as to why God did not leave us when we left Him as our First Love. A day 17 years in the future where family and friends would come together to celebrate the beginning of the new Lanham household. A day to praise the legacy of 294 years of marriage modeled first by their grandparents and continued by their parents. A legacy that would have been broken had Cathy and I decided to end our marriage in 2003.
When you feel it would be easier to quit rather than endure the hardship of your broken relationship, remember, it is for a time you can not see that God’s miracle of Restoration will be revealed.
“You can't go wrong with Scott. He is very personable and insightful. He sees between the lines and can speak truth in a very unthreatening way. We have benefited greatly from our sessions together and we wouldn't be as far along in the restoration of our marriage without his Coaching.”
- Bruce & Kim
The Beauty of the Olive Tree
Believe it or not, the olives in my logo and represented on these pages aren’t just an artistic drawing. They’re actually a much bigger representation about what we’re doing here.
You see, in the Bible the olive tree is a symbol of reconciliation, perseverance, cleansing and healing, victory and richness and, above all, a sign of peace. Beautiful symbols of our relationship with God and what we are called to represent in our relationships with other humans.
Olive trees literally require harsh wind conditions to produce fruit. And that fruit needs to soften and endure extreme pressure in order to actually become useful.
It’s the same with relationships. Your relationships are going to endure harsh conditions and be put under extreme pressure. But then (and only then) will your relationship begin to really experience the fruitfulness it was intended for. It’s through the hard times, with God’s help, that we begin to soften and actually give and accept the love we were meant to experience all along.
This journey is going to be a hard one, friend, I can promise you that. But I also know that out of this hard season will come some valuable fruit, relationships of peace, because of your perseverance.
Like the olive, you’ll start under stress and end up better than before. And I look forward to walking with you every step of the way.